Author / Patty Adams

My meeting with Gretchen Carlson - You're Never Stuck
Business & Life

The Most Interesting Lunch of My Career

Hello Lovelies~

Happy New Year to you and your loved ones! 

I hope your holidays were as fabulous as you are and most importantly you were able to grab some quiet time for reflection and “white space”.

Mine was a hectic one with an unexpected move (a flood), business travel,   great family time and all sorts of other wonderful chaos but guess what? As always, the good Lord helped me through it all and had my back big time.

Nonetheless 2016 went out with a bang. I attribute that to the most interesting business lunch of my entire professional life.

WHO IT  WAS WITH:

I had lunch with Gretchen Carlson. Yes, you read that right. As part of a recruiting initiative, I flew to New York and had lunch with Gretchen Carlson, the uber talented, former Fox News Anchor who stood up to  the infamous Roger Ailes and entire the Fox News machine.

If you follow me on Twitter @Instagram @youreneverstuck, you probably saw many of my followers asking how we met.

HOW WE MET:

Gretchen and I, both former Minnesotans and fellow authors began a relationship on  Twitter about eight months ago. Like most relationships, it grew from there. So on a freezing cold New York day, I flew to New York and we met “in real life” (IRL) for lunch.

Gretchen was humble and gracious without a bitter bone in her body.  She is role model, shining light for our daughters, granddaughters, nieces and women everywhere.

My meeting with Gretchen Carlson - You're Never Stuck
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Please join me in following her on Twitter @GretchenCarlson, watching her return to the airwaves The Today Show at NBC, and reading her soon to be published book. 

Fashion, Career, Business & Life

Learnings on Grief

Hello Readers! I’m so sorry it’s been so darn long. Life is never a dull moment around here~a good thing!   Lots and lots of change and blessings in my life (all of it exciting which I will share in a new post shortly) but today, I wanted to share some of my own learnings on grief.

As many of you know our family has sustained some significant lossesl and thus significant grief, over the last 5+ years. My (now) husband lost his amazing wife of 42 years in a car crash and he almost didn’t survive himself. We lost our “remarkable-in every -way” 43 year old  daughter-in-law to metastatic breast cancer and  our 45 year old former son-in-law out of the blue.  We lost our  28 year-old nephew to diabetes and we lost our over-photographed rescue dog, #theColonel, totally unexpectedly. We’ve watched our children and grandchildren loose pets and dreams. Grief has been handed to all of us here in the Adams family in over abundance.

Here’s where I found myself: I was  a new wife ( now a wife of  a whole 3 years) , a new “step-mom” (my husband’s 6 children are in their 20’s, 30’s and 40’s so it’s more about being Dad’s wife) to children suffering grief, a new grandmother to 13 beautiful grandchildren (Did I mention that they call me PattyCakes?) and bam!, the above happened. Needless to say,  I was woefully ill- prepared.

So today I share some of my learnings and my mis-steps here with you. If they resonate great and if not, as usual go on and toss them

1. Some families/children handle grief privately not on social media. They may want and need privacy, not Facebook posts. I’ve been guilty of this one myself, have rethought that and changed my Facebook ways. Think about it, if you lost a parent/spouse would you want to be unexpectedly jolted by a Facebook post? I’m not in anyway saying not to share memories , pay tributes on birthdays, etc. That’s totally appropriate and appreciated. But before posting, think and be wise.

Learning:  Put yourself in their shoes and be empathetic. 

      2.  Most children don’t want to be called their “father or mother’s daughter”.  They want to be and are their own person. They may be even hurt by such well-meaning but unhelpful comments. This doesn’t mean that they don’t love their Dad and Mom.  They merely want to be recognized as their own person. Totally understandable, right?

Learning: Choose your well-intended words wisely.

      3.  Each person/child grieves differently based on their relationship with their parent/sibling/spouse. Assumptions should not be made. That doesn’t mean that they don’t love the heck of out their Dad, Mom, sibling or former spouse.

Learning: Give everyone some breathing room.

        4.  Not everyone wants to talk about it. If they don’t, don’t take offense. It typically means that their grief may have subsided and/or they prefer to talk to their friends or counsellors.  When they do talk, I can assure that  it will break your heart into a million pieces. It will also warm your heart and you will be bursting with pride. You will know that their Dad/Mom wherever they are, are immensely proud of them at that very moment.

Learning: Let them come to you.

5.  I’m Christian and one of the things that drives me crazy is when faith-based folks of any kind tell kids “It happened for a reason”. I know you mean well.  Please don’t do that to grieving children or adults. It’s insensitive and gives Christianity and other faiths a bad name.

And atheists/agnostics/whatever, you are in the hot-seat here too!   Just because a sibling/parent was an agnostic or whatever, don’t you assume/profess that to children either. It’s equally as bad! Again, let them be their own person.

Learning: Don’t foist your faith or non-faith beliefs on grieving children.

I know you’ve sustained many great losses yourself. My heart goes out to you. I’m curious what learnings you’ve learned around loss and particularly watching children grieve. I hope you’ll share with our readers below so that we all may continue to learn and grow.

With Love,

Patty

Ps. When I post topics on family, my husband always reads them before-hand. I want to get the tone and content right. This is another way I try to foster empathy 🙂

Make A Statement- Statement Necklaces
Fashion Fashion and Style

Make A Statement: Statement Necklaces

Statement jewelry is easily one of the hottest treds right now because of the ease in which these pieces allow us to pull an outfit together. Whether you”re looking at bling for your arms and hands, a chunky ankle bracelet or even something to wear in your hair, statement jewelry is one area you can’t go wrong in. In fact, one of the questions that I get asked about all the time is how to spice up an outfit using statement jewelry. Today, I am going to answer that question by spotlighting one of my favorite, affordable ways to do just that.

STATEMENT NECKLACES

What’s so great about statement jewelry is that just about everyone carries it now. Target, Jcrew, Anthropologie, Amazon, major designers they’ve all gotten into the act making it affordable for everyone.  Not only can you find these beautiful pieces just about anywhere but you can get them on a budget and still look like a million bucks!

Here are two of my ways to wear them:

The T-shirt: This is one of my favorites. I love it because the look is clean and the statement necklace does exactly what it’s supposed to. I don’t care if it’s a crew neck or a v-neck t-shirt.  Statement necklaces look great. When pairing your necklace (or other  jewelry) with a tshirt, be sure you are using pieces that are low on the bling but high on style. One of my favorite, casual looks is a pair of denim shorts or capris with a neutral colored tee and major pops of color.

Over a simple white blouse: White blouses are my favorite (if you can keep them clean) and adding a statement necklace just sets it off beautifully. Here you can add some bling if you would like. Add a blazer or a chic cardigan and you look pulled together. This look is the epitome of business chic. Another fun way to spice up this look is to have your shoes that match your necklace.

So which necklaces should you choose? Here are three of my favorites that you absolutely cannot go wrong with:

Women Lady Fashion Crystal Leaves Rhinestone Statement Bib Necklace

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Two-Tone Painted Chain Necklace

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Rhinestone Crystal Reasin Flower Statement Fashion Necklace

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Do you have a favorite piece of jewelry? What’s your favorite way to pair amazing statement pieces with your favorite outfits?

Until next time,

Cashmere

 

Reinventing Yourself
Inspiration

Reinventing Yourself

Reinventing oneself is something that is pondered at least once in every lifetime. With comparison everywhere, it’s often difficult to not consider what you should or could be. But is that really the reason you want to create a new you? Of course it isn’t. In fact, it’s probably one of the worst reasons you could give yourself to inspire a little reinventing of who you are or who you want to become. As I mentioned in my previous post on comparison (link above), we can’t keep wanting things we either cannot have or longing for things to be different. But sometimes the very real reality is that we need to spend a little time soul searching and deciding if a little reinvention is right.

The point of this post is not to tell anyone what to do. It’s not to say that everyone needs to reinvent themselves. And it’s definitely not suggesting that without reinvention, you can’t be successful or happy. Instead, this post is more of a guideline and inspirational post sharing some of the things I changed in my life about myself and how I took some time to reevaluate who I was becoming before deciding that reinventing myself was something I needed.

Reinventing Myself Was Not The Easy Road

And by not easy I mean, the soul searching, every dirty detail exposed, harsh reality and truth I had to face – hard. There were two big areas I wanted to change when I really looked at my life and today I am sharing with you what they were and how I made just a few changes to reinvent me.

I was happy but not full of joy.

For many years I considered myself to be successful in all ways. I was relatively happy with my law career and I was happy with my family and friends. However when I decided that my life was lacking a few things and I was going to have to overhaul, I realized that I was not full of joy.   Practicing law did not bring me joy. I liked that I was making very good money but money wasn’t all that mattered to me. My relationships were good but not what I believed my “happily ever after” would be.  My faith was present but not deep.

This “joy deficit” was the first place I needed to target before I could fully become who I wanted to be. After realy looking at my goals for my life and noting where I was on the path to reaching them, I realized that there were people I would need to remove from my life (for various reasons) and that maybe the career I was in wasn’t really right for me. I also began a deeper walk in my faith which has not been easy but has been worth the effort.

I was fit but not healthy.

Now when I use the word “healthy” here I don’t mean that I was sickly or that I was in any way ill. Healthy means a myriad of things and in this particular case I mean that I was in a place where I considered myself physically fit  but that I was not setting myself up for health success down the road. Although I have never been (and in truth, likely will never be) a person who watches every calorie or how many times I hit the gym, I wanted to become at least a little more health conscious. When I really evaluated how I was taking care of myself,  I realized that starting yoga and continuing pilates would be beneficial to not just my body but also my mind. I also realized that I felt better choosing the “healthier” options when I ate and stopped using food as a crutch. By changing just a few things I was able to feel better about myself and even began to see the results in the mirror.

In the end, life is what you make it. You can read a thousand quotes about change or inspiration on Pinterest but until you decide to really look inside yourself, you may never know just what you can be. Not everyone needs to change their career to be happy, not everyone will benefit from taking a yoga class. But my goal here at YNS has always been to share my own experiences and that if I can help even one person, I have succeeded in making the world a happier place.

But what about you? Are you going through changes in your life? What has been the biggest help in reinventing yourself? Share your thoughts in the comments here and be sure to follow along on Twitter to get the latest in fashion, beauty, career and inspiration from youreneverstuck.com!

Until next time,

Cashmere

Fashion Fashion and Style

The One Style Item I Cannot Live Without

Tanks aren’t something I have really touched on here on the YNS blog. I have talked a lot about style, fashion (yes, there’s a difference) and the various shops, items, etc. that I own and wear. As I was preparing for this post on using stripes in fashion I realized that I had yet to share my favorite piece of fashion with you all. Now, when I say “favorite” I mean favorite as in I wear these all the time and they compliment absolutely every look you could imagine. Trust me when I say that there are, quite literally, a hundred ways to wear this piece.

So what is it, you may be asking. Well folks it’s probably not what you think it is. The one piece of my wardrobe that gets the most wear and that I call my favorite is the Bordeaux Seamless Tank found here on Amazon! (The picture doesn’t do it justice.)

Bordeaux Tanks

So why do I love this simple tank so much? A few reasons:

1 | The fabric is the perfect weight (not flimsy), hold its shape, hugs you in and it’s as seamless as it looks. This means that no matter how you wear it, you’ll never see (or worse, feel) any seams along the front, back or sides. Seamless is a huge win because I am so not a fan of the unflattering lines left by any clothing item with obvious seams.

2 | The Bordeaux Tank comes in so many color options that you could wear a different tank every day for a year and never run out of options.

3 | There are just so many ways to wear this tank! The most obvious way is as the above photo shows, by itself paired with some shorts or pants for a casual chic look or you can dress it up under blazers, dusters or layered under a sheer top. This tank is seriously so universal that you will never want to own any others.

4 | When washing, they come out silky smooth; however, I recommend not putting it in the dryer as they do shrink. They dry quickly!

As you can see, I can’t speak highly enough of these tanks, I own them in every color and wear one practically every day!

Do you have a favorite tank or are you on the prowl looking to add this much needed fashion item to your own wardrobe? Leave me a comment here and share your own favorites so I can check them out too!

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*Disclaimer: Some posts contain affiliate links. Though I may earn a small income should my readers choose to purchase through the links I share, all opinions, reviews and product evaluations are my own. – Patty

Scarves
Fashion Fashion and Style

From Bland to Glam with just One Accessory

Scarves are one accessory no women should be without. Whether they are keeping you warm or taking your look from day to night, a scarf is the obvious choice for maximum style. Maximizing your fashion and style with one simple trick can save you loads of time but also ensure that you are passing off a polished and finished look.

If you have been coming around YNS for awhile, I am sure you’ve noticed that I like to include a scarf in my outfits or even just as photo props. I have so many that there is rarely a time I am lost for which one to pair with my daily outfits. I also have several that are “night only” scarves, meaning that I wear them to glam up my nightly ensemble.

Since I love scarves so much I thought I would put a spotlight on them today and show you a few different ways you can accessorize your look with just a simple scarf.

Way To Wear Scarves #1: To Keep You Warm

Way to wear scarves #1: to keep you warm

I love these looks because they are staying in style while not sacrificing their warmth to the fashion gods. It’s easy enough to match a thick wool scarf to any outfit in the fall or winter and still come out looking chic.

Way To Wear Scarves #2: As Clothing

Way to wear scarves #2 as clothing

I adore this idea simply because it’s unique and yet still manages to bring a major “POP” quality to your outfit. If you plan on trying this, however, I definitely recommend going with a scarf that I thick enough to not show through but also stylish enough to make you stand out.

Way To Wear Scarves #3: As An Accessory

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Old Hollywood made this look classic and we all know that classic never goes out of style. How many celebs have we seen walking around using this 1940’s iconic look every day? Exactly! And there’s no reason you can’t dress like a boss and still have a splash of starlet glam too!

As you can see here, the possibility of how to go from bland to glam with just one accessory is endless.

How do you style your scarves? Do you have a style accessory that is used just to add some glam to your look? Leave me a comment here so I can get a look at your style too!

Cashmere

The Benefits of a Capsule Wardrobe
Clothes Fashion and Style

The Benefits of a Capsule Wardrobe

Wardrobes of any kind are a place that I could lose myself in with glee. Whether it’s full of cashmere or every day wears, there is something magical about a wardrobe.  Seeing fibers and patterns, pops of color just fill me with joy and I absolutely love a wardrobe that has been put together well.

Lately, capsule wardrobes are all over my Facebook feed, my Pinterest page and I am even seeing great posts on this minimalist approach to clothing on Twitter! While I do believe there is nothing quite as stunning to the eye as a wardrobe overflowing with fine fabrics in every style, the idea of a capsule wardrobe is growing on me. With that in mind, I thought today I would touch on some of the many benefits to owning a capsule wardrobe and even hand you some tools to start your own today!

3 Benefits To Capsule Wardrobes:

Benefits of capsule wardrobes on yns

1 | You never really run out of things to wear!

Honestly, it’s true. Although you would think that owning less would cause you too have less to wear, the reality is that you have more because you can create so many different outfits based around one top or one hat. Keeping this simple does it actually mean that you are limiting yourself. It means you will be able to use your imagination to expand what you already have.

2| You can mix and match everything you own and create a constant flow of outfits.

When you start the purge and decide to go minimalist you will be forced to find your personal style. Not only is your personal style a reflection of who you are but it is also a way of allowing your personality to shine through your clothes. If you are a person who doesn’t shy from color, consider pairing your wardrobe down to neutral tones and making them pop with lemon yellow wedges or a neon patterned scarf. The possibilities are endless when you start with a clean palette.

3 | Shopping expenses will go way down, allowing you to spend more on quality rather than over spend on quantity.

How many times have you sworn that you were not going to buy any new clothes this month and then wound up with around six new tops and four new pairs of pants – that you have not even worn! It happens to the best of us. The trick is to keep the above mentioned “personal style” in the front of your mind when you are out and about and have no intention to shop for yourself. This way you will never make another fashion buying mistake again and you will always look fashionable, in style and well put together.

With these three key benefits in mind, I have created a handy printable for you to use when deciding if a capsule wardrobe is right for you! Head on over here to print it out and get to work on creating the perfect capsule wardrobe to fit your life and style today!

Still not sure where to start? My Pinterest. Closets To Die For,  board can help get you inspired!

Now tell me: Have you seen all the capsule wardrobe goodness going around? What do you think? Leave me a comment to your own post (if you have one) or just leave your own thoughts below and let’s start a conversation about additional benefits to owning a capsule wardrobe!

See you soon!

Cashmere

My Favorite New Cashmere Brand
Fashion Fashion and Style

My Favorite New Cashmere Brand

Cashmere. Who doesn’t adore it? I sure do. I have a few different brands of cashmere in my closet but I recently found a new brand and today I’m collaborating with them.

Meet The Cashmere Queen: 

Catherine Robinson Cashmere

Catherine Robinson is headquartered in the UK but sells worldwide on her lovely website. Her cashmere is made in Mongolia (known worldwide as the “Land of Blue Sky) and I have to say the quality is unparalleled and just plain yummy.

They carry cashmere wraps, capes, sweaters, scarfs, snoods, leg warmers, gloves and socks. I think that qualifies them as a cashmere expert! The colors are muted colors perfect for every day; vintage rose, ivory, soft greys, pinks and blues. Catherine’s idea is to compliment the buyer’s  skin tone and add a soft glow to brighten one’s complexion. I say, “I’ll take one of each!”

If you are a regular reader of youreneverstuck.com, you know I love companies that take the time to present their products with care.  And that’s exactly what Catherine Robinson does. It arrives as a true gift. In fact, it’s like getting a warm hug! Here’s how it came:

Catherine Robinson Cashmere Unboxing

It was even  beautifully wrapped in tissue together with a cameo infused with Catherine’s signature scent, Grace.  So elegant!

What I loved most about the beautiful pink wrap they sent me is that it’s HUGE, making it a great value.  Unlike other brands, they don’t skimp in the least bit. This will be one of my favorite pieces for travel on a chilly airplane. Here I am showing it off in all its splendor:

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So go check out Catherine Robinson’s beautiful cashmere. You will be glad you did. And me? I’m ready to order their beautiful duster!

Catherine Robinson Cashmere Duster

A bit of background directly from Catherine:

I was approaching my 50th birthday, my daughter had left home my husband had sold his business and I thought it was the right time for me to venture into something new!

I have a public relations background and a love of style and of course cashmere and thought I’d have a go at setting up my own business.

I originally sourced my cashmere from Nepal but I wasn’t happy with the quality and the professionalism of the company and found this wonderful established company in Mongolia who are a delight to communicate and work with.  I work closely with the team there on my designs.

My business in the last 5 years has grown enormously and I’m so excited about all my new designs and ideas to increase my brand awareness….I’m venturing into cashmere for gentlemen later this year.  

Maybe the loveliest thing is doing it all at the age I am now; it feels like I’m having a second chance at things and I’m absolutely adoring it…it’s fair to say cashmere is a passion of mine!

Is she not just amazing? I’m definitely happy to have been able to connect with Catherine on a professional level and I just know you, my readers, will love her products as much as I do.

Cashmere

 

 

 

*Disclaimer: Some posts contain affiliate links. Though I may earn a small income should my readers choose to purchase through the links I share, all opinions, reviews and product evaluations are my own. – Patty

Pants
Fashion and Style

UP! Pants – A Review

About: Up! Pants Montréal

Ladies, ladies, ladies. Have I got a little gem for you! Up! Pants recently asked me to do a review of their pants and today’s the day!

Background: For over 30 years Sam Zucker has been manufacturing well-known pull-on pant brands in Montréal, Canada for various labels.  After decades of creating and designing for others, Up! Pants Montréal launched its innovative collection of fashionable, flattering, and affordable pull-on pants.

My Review:

Think active wear meets dress casual. I have to confess that I was a little worried when I read they were “pull on” style; I kept thinking of granny pants. But let me assure you that’s not the case. They are attractive and fabric looks expensive. This new trend is called “atheleisure” and it’s designed specifically to get you through every part of your day. While I would not wear these to work out (read on), atheleisure is a God send!

Patty - UP Pants Review - Black Back

Patty - UP Pants Review - Black Front

Patty - UP Pants Review - White Front

And can you say comfortable or what? When I wear UP! I’m as comfortable as when I’m wearing yoga pants except that they look dressy!   Unlike yoga pants however, these legs are roomy;  I certainly didn’t feel as if I was wearing workout clothes.

Apparently Up! Pants have what the company calls the Thincredible™ fit designed to make you feel thin and confident. I must say that’s exactly how I felt wearing them. The pants have tummy-control features and hip-slimming fabrics and a wide seam down the side which dresses them up. The elastic waistband is designed with “give” to slim a woman’s midsection and the built-in front panel minimizes any muffin top. How awesome is that?

But the bonus? They  are machine washable – no dry cleaning! I can’t wait to take these babies traveling; they will be perfect.

Sizing:

I found them to be generously cut (another bonus and smart marketing-who wants to ever size up?)  If you are in between sizes like me, you might want to size down. The various pant designs run from $110-$165 and are available for purchase at fine boutiques across the country and in Canada. To find a store near you visit www.uppantsmontreal.com

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*Disclaimer: Some posts contain affiliate links. Though I may earn a small income should my readers choose to purchase through the links I share, all opinions, reviews and product evaluations are truly my own. – Patty

News
Patricia Green

Exciting News for YNS (and YOU!)

News! I love being able to tell you that I have news. Lots of news in fact! News you’ll just have to read on to find out about!

Remember on March 9th I released a spotlight post that centered around Patricia Green Shoes? What I didn’t say in that post is that Patricia and I were working together on a new project that is going to be a major game changer here at YNS. You see, I fell in love with Patricia Green Shoes early on in life and have been just dying to meet her. So in March, I did just that. I visited her headquarters in Palm Springs!

In the midst of all our business, life and fashion talk, Patricia and I really connected both as women and as professionals which only made me all the more eager to collaborate with her on a much larger scale.

So after talking and emailing and lunch meetings, I can finally announce my big news!

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