Reinventing oneself is something that is pondered at least once in every lifetime. With comparison everywhere, it’s often difficult to not consider what you should or could be. But is that really the reason you want to create a new you? Of course it isn’t. In fact, it’s probably one of the worst reasons you could give yourself to inspire a little reinventing of who you are or who you want to become. As I mentioned in my previous post on comparison (link above), we can’t keep wanting things we either cannot have or longing for things to be different. But sometimes the very real reality is that we need to spend a little time soul searching and deciding if a little reinvention is right.
The point of this post is not to tell anyone what to do. It’s not to say that everyone needs to reinvent themselves. And it’s definitely not suggesting that without reinvention, you can’t be successful or happy. Instead, this post is more of a guideline and inspirational post sharing some of the things I changed in my life about myself and how I took some time to reevaluate who I was becoming before deciding that reinventing myself was something I needed.
Reinventing Myself Was Not The Easy Road
And by not easy I mean, the soul searching, every dirty detail exposed, harsh reality and truth I had to face – hard. There were two big areas I wanted to change when I really looked at my life and today I am sharing with you what they were and how I made just a few changes to reinvent me.
I was happy but not full of joy.
For many years I considered myself to be successful in all ways. I was relatively happy with my law career and I was happy with my family and friends. However when I decided that my life was lacking a few things and I was going to have to overhaul, I realized that I was not full of joy. Practicing law did not bring me joy. I liked that I was making very good money but money wasn’t all that mattered to me. My relationships were good but not what I believed my “happily ever after” would be. My faith was present but not deep.
This “joy deficit” was the first place I needed to target before I could fully become who I wanted to be. After realy looking at my goals for my life and noting where I was on the path to reaching them, I realized that there were people I would need to remove from my life (for various reasons) and that maybe the career I was in wasn’t really right for me. I also began a deeper walk in my faith which has not been easy but has been worth the effort.
I was fit but not healthy.
Now when I use the word “healthy” here I don’t mean that I was sickly or that I was in any way ill. Healthy means a myriad of things and in this particular case I mean that I was in a place where I considered myself physically fit but that I was not setting myself up for health success down the road. Although I have never been (and in truth, likely will never be) a person who watches every calorie or how many times I hit the gym, I wanted to become at least a little more health conscious. When I really evaluated how I was taking care of myself, I realized that starting yoga and continuing pilates would be beneficial to not just my body but also my mind. I also realized that I felt better choosing the “healthier” options when I ate and stopped using food as a crutch. By changing just a few things I was able to feel better about myself and even began to see the results in the mirror.
In the end, life is what you make it. You can read a thousand quotes about change or inspiration on Pinterest but until you decide to really look inside yourself, you may never know just what you can be. Not everyone needs to change their career to be happy, not everyone will benefit from taking a yoga class. But my goal here at YNS has always been to share my own experiences and that if I can help even one person, I have succeeded in making the world a happier place.
But what about you? Are you going through changes in your life? What has been the biggest help in reinventing yourself? Share your thoughts in the comments here and be sure to follow along on Twitter to get the latest in fashion, beauty, career and inspiration from youreneverstuck.com!
Until next time,