I don’t know about you but of late I’ve been struck by just how little compassion there seems to be out of there. This lack of compassion comes in all shapes and sizes, knows no economic boundaries and sounds quite a bit like the following:
- Just move on, would you!;
- Whew, I’m of the hook!;
- That’s Not My Problem!;
- Heh, That’s the Past, Get Over it!;
- I’m just at a different place in my life. (I think the last one is perhaps the worst of all as it feigns sincerity and kindness.)
The etymology of the word compassion comes from the Latin stem meaning to “suffer with, feel pity”. Webster’s dictionary defines compassion as:”a feeling of being sorry for others”.
I find these definitions so inadequate. To me, compassion is so much more powerful than that. It is life affirming. It has the power to change another’s life completely. Rather than born of pity or sorrow, I believe it is built out of divine respect and love. It connects us all. And amazingly, it’s absolutely free. It costs nothing to give it.
Don’t get me wrong, I understand the importance of the need for tough love
from time to time. But too often it seems that folks these days choose tough love as their initial reaction rather than compassion. And too often it seems that tough love is really just judgment … in disguise. Can’t we as human beings
do better than that? I think so.
So perhaps the next time you are tempted to respond with tough love/judgment, you can lead the way toward making the world just a little better place and make yourself happier at the same time by passing the compassion. Please.
And always remember, You’re Never Stuck.