Perhaps it’s the recent tragic shooting in Tucson, Arizona of Gabrielle Giffords and our current political climate, but I have been thinking lots about the practice of blame these days. It seems to be everywhere and getting worse. In order to change, we don’t need to debate how we got there, we can just look at its effects, how it showed up, and if we want to allow it to affect our own lives.
So in the spirit of “doing better,” the next time you catch yourself wanting to blame someone or something for your problems, consider this:
Blaming keeps you:
- In shame
- In denial
- In permanent grief
The better, more empowering choice is to own up to responsibility. With responsibility, you receive:
- The opportunity to genuinely learn from your mistakes.
- Heal any appropriate guilt.
- Open a new dialogue.
- Move forward with your life.
So I ask you, which will you choose?
Patricia A. Comeford
CEO, YOU’RE NEVER STUCK, INC., WWW.YOURENEVERSTUCK.COM